Change and Transitions
By:  Janell B.

 

Do you know the difference between a change and transition?
It’s easy to remember if you relate to this demonstration

Of falling in love with those who showed you different affections
Because life of a foster youth turned you in multiple directions
Where you found comfort and happiness never thinking ahead
Because someone filled that painful spot instead

A relationship with family, friends, or a lover
Can change if you’ve moved or left for good or for bad only to discover
That change can be situational in nature or happen at any point and time
The process of transition is to face reality knowing you struggled in the climb
Transitions take time coming to terms with change
So feeling these three phases internally will no longer be strange

The first phase is endings
Perplexed with feeling as if you’re dealing with lending’s
Of how things used to be to the way things are now
To experience loss that was good or bad will allow
To feel the feelings of unfairness, fear, anger, relief, and or pride
Because you’ve let go of a person, possession, job, and or something deeper inside
Use the tools of the four R’s: Replace, Reframe, Reinvent, and Relinquish
Will guide and bring you one step closer to transitions finish

The second phase is the Neutral Zone
Of self-discovery and obstacles to be conquered alone
This process is the heart of transitions
Where you take lead of your own ambitions
Although it’s easier to explain this phase then it is to do
Realize these feelings of chaos, confusion, and creativity are just long overdue
Use the tools of CUSP: Control, Understanding, Support, and Purpose
To continue in your transition and overcome to reach an all-purpose

Where the final phase is a New Beginning
Where peace and comfort leaves the feeling of winning
Where you’ve worked hard to feel confident in whom you are
Knowing where you’re going and how far
At times you may feel weary of your new identity, behaviors, or relationships
Know you’ve learned to accept change and the process of transitions to come to grips
That the new ways of doing things now feels familiar
For change and transitions is meant to clear what feels unfamiliar

So now you know the difference of Change and Transition
Because really the first step is to give Change recognition
Then straighten out Transitions in your own cognition